As the old song goes, there is no easy way to break somebody’s heart. We may be living in a world where almost everything’s digital and fast-paced, but when it comes to the different stages of a relationship, some things still remain the same—no matter how near or far you are with each other, it takes a lot of hard work and understanding to make sure that everything goes as smoothly as it possibly can.
However, there are things that just aren’t meant to be no matter how hard you try to work it out. This is when you need to decide whether what you have is still worth holding on to, or you’re better off letting go and starting fresh—on your own. Should you decide that it’s time to end a relationship, that doesn’t mean you can throw all your memories out the window. There should still be that level of respect for each other. It’s not easy, but it’s not impossible either. Here are three tips on how you can end a relationship with dignity.
Make sure you’re both Calm and Relaxed
We’re not saying that you have to be on vacation before you can even consider breaking up with your partner. We just simply want you to make sure that you don’t break the news to them right before they drive to work, go on an important meeting, or do other similarly important things to do for the day. This can cause a great deal of anxiety and you don’t want that to happen.
Don’t let this be a case of “Rumor has it” where your partner finds out after your parents, your siblings, your friends, your exes, and the whole neighborhood. Even worse, don’t let them find out from other people. Things are definitely going to take a turn for the ugly, if you let that happen.
Make Sure You Don’t Beat Around the Bush When Explaining and Answering Questions
Be as honest as you possibly can. Try to empathize because breaking up is never an easy situation for anybody, especially if you’re not both seeing eye to eye with how things should end. Tell them how you truly feel by saying what the reason is for the break up. Start your sentences with “I feel..” instead of “You..” to avoid hurling accusations and other things you might regret saying in the end. And most of all, give them a chance to air out what they would like to say.
And whatever you do, don’t do it over the phone, through text, or through e-mail. Always do it in person. As much as possible, you would like the conversation to end right then and there, and not stretch out into this long and unnecessary battle of hurtful words. The goal is to end things with dignity and respect. Not with total disgust with each other. Amen? Amen.